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Sep 17, 2014 · Listed below are 8 reasons why you, of all people, are your number one worst enemy, along with how you can overcome, well, yourself. 1. You Don’t Manage Your Expectations
- You Bully Yourself So Nobody Else Can Surprise You With Something You Don't Already "Know" You can't beat fear to the finish line. Diving into every possible comment, opinion or negative emotion someone has toward you is like diving into a bucket of crap that has no bottom.
- You Trust Other People More Than You Trust Yourself. If this tends to be the case for you, you need to be extra careful, because if basically any one or two people in your immediate social circle agree on something, you'll probably start to just adapt to it unknowingly, assuming that the whole knows better than the individual.
- You Give Yourself Anxiety Because You Value Other People's Comfort Over Your Own. This certainly doesn't mean that you have to be inconsiderate of other people's feelings just so you can get things off your chest — it's about striking a balance and speaking with purpose when there is an issue.
- You Create Unrealistic Demands Of Yourself And Wonder Why You've Always "Failed" A lot of the time, when we don't know how to exercise real self-control, we cut ourselves off entirely from something that's ultimately necessary or desirable (and so in contrast, we binge or fail because of the imposed restriction).
- Identify your negative thoughts. Your negative thoughts about yourself may be so automatic that you don't even notice them. But try to catch them, write them down, and then see if there is a pattern.
- Define your terms. Now that you can see the deprecatory comments you direct toward yourself, let’s see if you can define the terms you are using. For example, how would you define “failure”?
- What is the evidence for and against your self-criticism? What is the evidence in favor of the label "failure"? Perhaps you didn’t do well on the exam, your date didn’t go well, or you said something you wished you hadn’t say.
- What is the advantage of criticizing yourself? Some people think that they need to criticize themselves to self-motivate. If you have a dog, then you realize that scolding and yelling will get you nowhere.
Jan 8, 2024 · Being your own worst enemy is a common phenomenon that can affect anyone. It means that you sabotage your own success, happiness, or well-being by engaging in negative thoughts, behaviors, or habits. Some examples of being your own worst enemy are procrastinating, avoiding feedback, blaming others, or being overly self-critical.
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May 22, 2024 · When your thoughts go into an anxious overdrive, it’s easiest to say no and turn away. The relief is instant, and you feel much safer continuing along the path you know. This is the worst way we can be an enemy to ourselves.
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