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Jul 2, 2020 · When we say, Im fine or Everythings fine, we’re denying our true feelings and experiences; we’re hoping to convince ourselves and others that everything really is okay.
- Avoiding Painful Feelings
- Avoiding Conflicts
- Avoiding Our Problems
- Overcoming Avoidance and Denial
You may say I’m fine to shield yourself from painful feelings. In general, codependents are uncomfortable with emotions. Most of us grew up in families where we weren’t allowed to be angry or sad. We were told to stop crying or we were punished when we expressed our feelings, or our feelings were ignored. As a result, we learned to suppress our fee...
We also pretend to be fine to avoid conflicts. Sharing our true feelings or opinions might cause someone to get angry with us—and that’s scary or at least uncomfortable. Related to this is our desire to be easy-going or low maintenance. We don’t want to be difficult—which might lead to a conflict—and we don’t want to be a burden or need anything be...
Pretending that we don’t have any problems, difficult emotions, or conflicts can be a form of denial. We want others to think everything is working out great for us because we’re afraid of the shame, embarrassment, and judgment that might come if people knew the truth (that we’re struggling, our lives are unmanageable, our loved ones are troubled, ...
If you’ve been denying your feelings and problems for years, it’s not easy to start digging into the messy stuff beneath the surface. But if we’re going to truly feel better and create more authentic and satisfying relationships, we have to acknowledge that we’re not fine, that we are struggling, hurt, afraid, or angry, and that we have unmet needs...
Jun 11, 2018 · A woman may say she’s fine, because she is afraid she will be rejected by you if she is honest about what is troubling her. Maybe your previous interactions have implied this already to her, or the past experiences may have played a crucial role in whether she would dare to admit weakness.
May 4, 2021 · Saying "I'm fine" when we aren't can be a way to deny painful feelings, avoid conflicts, and pretend that we don't have problems. Some people tend to minimize their feelings,...
Nov 23, 2016 · A study of 2,000 adults commissioned by the Mental Health Foundation has found the average adult will say “I’m fine” 14 times a week, though only 19% really mean it. Almost a third of those...
Jan 14, 2024 · The classic “I’m fine” is often employed when emotions run deeper than the surface might suggest. While it might seem like a simple reassurance, it could be an invitation to delve into a more...
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Sep 30, 2018 · I have heard many a guy ask the question – why do women say they are fine when they’re not? If you take the answer “I’m fine” at face value and leave it alone, you know you are making the situation worse.
