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Oct 25, 2024 · Having an enemy can be infuriating. When there's a not-so-special someone in your life who knows exactly how to push all your hot buttons, you might be tempted look for ways to fight back or get revenge. But the best way to defeat them is...
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Jun 28, 2024 · The best way to defeat any enemy is to get them out of your life completely. Avoid enemies as much as possible to disarm them and steal their ability to offend, torment, and irritate you. [5] If you're struggling with a bully, use your observational skills to steer clear of their haunts and spend time in other places.
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- Enemies engage in destructive criticism. Their criticism always tries to tear you down, not build you up. When a real friend gives you constructive criticism, their goal is to encourage and support you with their honesty.
- Enemies spread gossip about you. They try to hurt you by turning other people against you too. If someone acts like a friend to your face (or over social media), then goes behind your back to reveal your secrets or spread false rumors, they’re definitely not your friend.
- Enemies sabotage your path to success. They may try to hold you back even when it doesn’t help them. At school or work, your enemy might aim to sabotage you by making lots of little complaints about you to your teacher or boss.
- Enemies may show defensive body language. They might turn or lean away from you or put up physical barriers. Someone who doesn’t like you may subconsciously try to distance and defend themselves from you.
- The Outer Enemy. The Outer Enemy are the “people, institutions, and situations that mean to harm us.” They are the partner who cheated on you, the boss who gave you a warning, or the rain that soaked you to the skin.
- The Inner Enemy. The Inner Enemy are those emotions that poison our soul: anger, hatred, and fear. When we are offended, beaten down, or wronged in some way, we are left damaged.
- The Secret Enemy. The Secret Enemy is our inner voice that defines how we orient ourselves to the world. As Thurman and Salzberg write, “We listen raptly to this insistent, incessant ego voice and feel we cannot deny it, because we think it is our only voice.”
- The Super-Secret Enemy. Finally, the Super-Secret Enemy is the darker aspect to that inner voice (above). It’s the one of self-disgust and self-loathing.
- Consider the temperament of your adversary. Is this a person with enough humility to be willing to shave off the rough edges of a disagreement?
- Find a trusted, neutral third party to help negotiate compromises. Why not get that person you’ve been texting about your adversary to sit down with the two of you at the same time?
- Figure out what the disagreement is about. You and your so-called adversary may, surprisingly, be on the same side more than you realize. It’s possible that resentment has built up over time, drifting far from the initial dispute’s actual content.
- Set out the claims on both sides of the issue. Sometimes a good old-fashioned “pro-con” list of points can help clarify not just what the disagreement is about but on how the evidence actually stacks up.
Oct 31, 2018 · The enemy’s schemes are ruthless and cunning. The Bible reminds us that his main aim is to steal, kill, and destroy. If you’re a child of the living King, don’t ever believe for a second that the enemy hasn’t planned your demise. He will do everything he can to bring every believer down.
Persisting strategy – A strategy that seeks to destroy the means by which the enemy sustains itself; Pincer ambush – A U-shaped attack with the sides concealed and the middle held back until the enemy advances, at which point the concealed sides ambush them
